The nice guy stereotype… How good of a label is it? Many people (women) would agree that “nice guys” get less girlfriends, but more friends that are girls, which is not necessarily a bad thing, there’s nothing wrong with being nice. The problem starts when you become so nice to everyone that you forget to be nice to yourself, after that you create a typecast label that sticks to you and will follow you around for the rest of your life, and it can get weary sometimes.

Me for one, I’m tired of it, no more. I’m just about finished agreeing with everyone for no reason but to please them. I thought it was because I didn’t mind the options selected, but the reality was that I was leaving my own opinions and preferences behind, undercutting my individuality… not anymore.

I see now that bending backwards over someone is just a road to perdition. I bent already for almost everyone, I bent backwards for someone I thought was special, and it got me nothing but dishonor… or reality check (Depends on the day I think about it). But the truth is that it made me realize that real world people don’t welcome self-sacrifice but instead see it as a sign of weakness, and sometimes they’ll take advantage of that.

I see now that saying “no”, it’s just as easy as saying “yes”. You don’t have to say “yes” to everything, saying “no” would make you more self-confident, and people would respect that. Forcing yourself to draw the line will make everyone know you’re not a doormat, because “nice guy” is just two steps away of that.

I see that now that in a relationship I have to play that game in order to succeed, not biting more than I can chew. And no matter how much I hate “the game”, I still have to play it, and because I usually don’t, I have to get in on with other people’s rules and just right there, half the battle is lost. It’s important to find a mutual benefit, because every relationship should be a two way street. Being nice doesn’t mean showing romantic interest with flowers, small gifts, or expensive dinners; one needs to be shown worthiness of their love.

Lastly, I see that I don’t need to make anybody happy, but myself. Need is a word that forces you into a situation you might not be ready for or might not want to. It means putting somebody else’s happiness before yours. That is something I need to keep away from.

So, to make a point of all this nonsense, I’m done being nice, I have a new way of seeing things and I better get used to it, because otherwise I won’t survive in this world.